ENM & Polyamory Therapy
Support for individuals, couples, and relationship networks exploring ethical non-monogamy & polyamory
Serving clients virtually in California and Washington and locally in San Rafael
When ENM & Polyamory Feel Hard
You might be trying to open your relationship and realizing there’s no clear roadmap for how to “do this right.” Conversations about agreements, boundaries, or what’s actually okay start to feel confusing, overwhelming, or circular.
You may be running into jealousy, attachment insecurity, or mismatched expectations—one of you wanting more openness, the other needing more stability. Maybe agreements have been broken, trust feels shaky, or it’s unclear how to repair without shutting everything down.
For some, the challenge is figuring out how to practice the ethical part of ethical non-monogamy—how to be honest, transparent, and considerate of everyone involved while still honoring your own needs. For others, it’s navigating new partners entering the dynamic, managing time and emotional bandwidth, or trying to stay connected to each other while the relationship structure shifts.
Clarifying Agreements, Needs, and Communication
In our work together, we slow things down and get clear on what’s actually happening beneath the surface—where communication breaks down, where assumptions are being made, and where each of you is coming from. I help you express your needs more directly, navigate difficult conversations, and create agreements that feel clear, mutual, and sustainable rather than reactive or one-sided.
We work on building emotional awareness, setting boundaries, and repairing ruptures when misunderstandings or breaches of trust occur. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s creating a relationship structure that feels grounded, respectful, and workable for everyone involved.
Building Secure Attachments
I use an attachment-focused lens to explore how each of you relates within the relationship system. We look at how attachment patterns shape your defense mechanisms and communication styles—how you respond when you feel insecure, threatened, or unsure, and how that impacts your ability to stay connected to each other.
My approach integrates relational and somatic therapy methods that support deeper awareness of emotions, nervous system responses, and attachment patterns. This helps you understand how past experiences, trauma, or relational wounds may be influencing your current relationship dynamics.
We track what happens in moments of jealousy, fear of loss, or disconnection, and work toward cultivating more security within each relationship, while also strengthening your relationship with yourself. As your internal sense of safety becomes more stable, it becomes easier to communicate clearly, navigate conflict, and stay grounded even when things feel vulnerable or uncertain.
Ready to Dive In ?
I offer a free 20-minute consultation to learn more about my approach and services, and see if its a good fit.